I am the spouse of a veteran with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and mother of a 16 year old son. Since my husband has been home from Afghanistan six years ago he has become violent, angry, and distant from our family. Two weeks ago he threatened to kill me and I called the police (only because the VA counselor told me to do so) and received a temporary restraining order. If I would have known that this would not get him/us more help I wouldn't have done it. Now he is out of the home, took all the finances, and I am left with the house, bills, car payment, no food, no gas, no nothing. I had to, temporarily, send my son to go live with his father out of state. I didn't want him to see everything and be here when the house gets emptied; not to mention I don't have the finances to take care of him right now. The gas got shut off last week and I had to use everything I had left in the bank to get it turned back on.
I have been in counseling since February for depression, anxiety, and possibly secondary PTSD myself. His anger has nearly caused me to have a nervous breakdown. I have Rhumetoid Arthritis and Fibromyalga so I have only been working part time for the past few years (12 hours a week at the store he manages). I also have to have surgery on the nerves in both my feet. How am I suppose to look for a full time job when I am suppose to have this surgery, end up riddled in pain after a short few hours of work, and have no gas for the car?
I have tried to get help from the Veteran's Association but have been told that spouses don't get help, there aren't any programs. If he were still in the military I would but he got out last year; he couldn't handle it anymore.
My husband is mentally ill and no matter how much I try to talk to him about the help he and I need, and the counseling we should be in together, he doesn't want to hear it. He just left me stranded and I have no clue of what to do. I love my husband and want to help him/us but right now I am having a difficult time helping myself. I worry they will take the car, forclose on the house; and when he gets better what home will my soldier have to come home to?
Is there anyone out there who can help me, whether it be adivce or financial?
